Never allow yourself to play the victim. Victims have given away their power. You alone are responsible for your life. When you fully accept this, you will claim your inner power to make better choices. Change often comes from nothing more than a shift in perspective.
Empowerment arises from the three Cs: choice, courage and change. They are yours to claim. You'll be astounded at how easy it will be to take charge once you've made up your mind to do so. You have the opportunity to create a future that's very different from your past. And remember: not choosing is also a choice.
At some point you have to stop blaming your parents, or childhood for the way you are. Once you are an adult, the only person to blame is yourself for the way you act. Someone else or circumstances may be the cause of your horrible upbringing but there are ways to cope and it's YOUR shoulders that your adulthood lies on.
"It is always your next move." -- Napoleon Hill