Eat your vegetables... I don't care if it don't look good, your gonna try it... you will eat what mommy makes, I am not a restaurant you eat what is served here... You don't get up from the table till all your food is gone!
I am so thankful Kevin and I have been diligent in teaching our children how to eat! From the time they were a year old... we made them age appropriate size meals and they ate it all... they didn't get out of the high chair till it was gone. They got green, non sweet, jar food as a baby first. They were never ever allowed to not eat something cause they didn't think they would like it. No matter what I made they had to try it, and they were never allowed to have something else for dinner just because they didn't like what I made. We ate most every meal as a family even if that meant sitting at a tiny table, in a tiny area just so they could learn by example. From time to time we all ate in the living room, with the tv off so they could still have a family dinner even though we didn't have a dinning room table!
This has made our life so great! They eat 90% of all vegetables without a fight, no actually they LOVE 90% of vegetables, including asparagus, cauliflower, and peas! They will pick apples over French Fries 99% of the time at McDonalds. Shay's new favorite cereal by his choice is Raisin Bran... even though we have Cinnamon Toast Crunch, Apple Jacks and Fruity Cheerios in the house.
Having healthy active, good eating kids was some thing Kevin and I decided no matter what the fight we were going to make a point to raise and train our kids to be like. Shayne is harder as he fights the desire to sit and watch tv and play video games... but we have diligently not given in! Its been so tough sometimes too... Shayne is a hard, hard, HARD kid to fight with. Stubborn, loud, and just a out right frustrating child, whom if he thinks he could/might win this fight... he just gets more and more stamina to keep going in the fight!
But in this day of kids running the show, unwilling to listen to there parents, so many kids being picky eaters, not willing to eat food given to them, and obese. Kevin and I were not going to have that on our hands.
We totally believe tv is fine, but not all day... Is been frustrating cause it means I have to not watch tv sometimes just to make a point... "the tv is off! Its not gonna be back on till you go do something fun and creative in your room" Allowing my entire living/kitchen be turned into a fort, and helping them destroy my house just so they learn to use their imagination, was not my idea of a good time...
Candy, is great too... we have a drawer full of candy... but they only get 1 piece of candy every few days... or when they are active... they know candy is ok, but they also know candy is not for a snack or something they get everyday.
Having to be hard on them, fight them tooth and nail, "your not the boss, I am the boss" and then actually sticking to my words so they learn to respect me and know, that when I say it will happen, it will happen! Time out every single time they ignore me, or don't do as told. Following through with every single punishment that I say will happen, to the extent I say it will happen. Those are the hardest parts of parenting.
But at the end of the days those are also the most amazing rewarding times too... the times you know your a good parent.
I have been doing a lot of thinking about parenting since I have been pregnant with baby #3 some things I love about what we have done, and some things I will change with this baby, but believe thats whats so great about parenting... no one way is the right way. No one child is gonna learn quite like the others so your always gonna be on your toes, cause the moment you think you have this down. Your kid will change, the ways you parent that child will have to change, and the rules of the game change.
They say having kids keeps you young... but I believe having well well disciplined children, kids who respect their parents authority and the authority of others keeps you creative... you have to stay 3 steps ahead of them at all times!
So yay for creativity, yay for kids keeping you on your toes, and yay till later!